2. Identify a sexual key from your story above. The key is an element from
the story that feels like it is having a big impact on your struggle or issue
(or even where you would like to thrive more.) Look for a key where, if you
changed your story about the key, it could have a strong impact on your
whole sexual experience.
Examples of keys are: sex, pleasure, orgasm, body, being in a relationship, being single,
marriage, surrender, gender roles or identities, femininity, sexual preferences or choices,
desire, wildness, control, power, virginity, innocence, aging, body, cheating.
3. Write down your current story about that key. What beliefs/emotions/
experiences are you associating with that key?
Example: I believe still, on some level, that I am unworthy of pleasure and don’t deserve it.
I feel guilty about having pleasure and guilty that I don’t feel enough pleasure. I feel like
pleasure is a sin. I can’t believe I just wrote that, but I guess it’s still true. I also believe
that I should be feeling more pleasure than I am currently.