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Lesson 5: Being Assertive
Grade 1, Unit 1
What Is My Child Learning?
Your child is learning that being assertive is
the best way to ask for help at school. When
you are assertive, you face the person you’re
talking to, stand up straight, use a calm, firm
voice, and use respectful words.
Why Is This Important?
Being able to ask for help assertively helps
children be better learners. When children
don’t understand something, it helps them
continue to learn rather than being stuck.
Ask your child:
What is a good way to ask your teacher or an adult for
help?
Second Step answer: In an assertive way.
Can you show me how it looks and sounds to ask for help assertively?
(Your child should be facing you, sitting or standing up straight, and using clear,
calm, and respectful words, such as “Can you please help me?”)
Practice at Home
Notice if your child is getting frustrated with a difficult or new task (such as cleaning a messy room,
reading a book, or writing words). First, give your child time to try to figure it out alone. If your child is still
stuck, remind him or her to ask you for help. For example:
I see that you are starting to feel frustrated trying to write those words. If you would like some
help, you can say: “Excuse me. Can you please help me write these words?”
Wait and let your child
ask you assertively for help. Make sure that you give him or her the needed help soon after being asked.
Activity
Help your child practice asking for help at school. Pretend that you are a teacher. You are busy writing a note on
your calendar. Your child needs help with a math problem. Before asking you for help, your child needs to wait
until you have finished what you are doing. Then have your child practice saying these words to ask you for help:
Excuse me. Can you please help with this math problem?
Check the steps that your child remembered to do:
Waited until you finished what you were doing before asking for help.
Faced you.
Stood up straight.
Used clear, calm, respectful words.
Be Assertive
• Face the person you’re
talking to.
•
Keep your head up and
shoulders back.
• Use a calm, firm voice.
•
Use respectful words.
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