Looking at Your Relationship to Shame
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In the space below, identify which of the ve shame responses—attacking others, attacking
yourself, denying, fawning or withdrawing—you most commonly use.
Since you’ve already identied your triggers and their underlying emotions, this exercise is about
looking more closely at which of those emotions are disguising shame, such as fear of rejection,
feeling unsafe, or feeling unworthy, unlovable or inadequate. Your willingness to recognize the
patterns and be inquisitive about shame is an act of self-respect. You cannot heal what you’re
unwilling to see.
Next, rate the intensity of your shame on a scale of 0 to 10, 10 being the most distressing.
After completing a round of EFT tapping, rate the intensity of your shame.